Nurse who suffers chronic tailbone pain

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I am a Registered Nurse who has suffered with tailbone pain for over 8 years. Like all chronic pain, it is essential that sufferers get the correct support, diagnosis and treatment appropriate for them as an individual. This blog follows my journey with chronic pain, it expresses my personal opinions and thoughts. It is not intended as a replacement for advice or treatment from your normal Healthcare Provider.

Thursday, 20 September 2018

Hello, it's me again

Apologies for my absenteeism.

I am still trying to get my new business up and running (@JillsWellness). I am on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. It's only been a year since I got my Personal Training Diploma, and I've heard it said that it takes at least two years to get a new business going. I have budgeted for that, so fingers crossed!

Things are looking up though; I have a few clients, but also an exciting opportunity to work with a physiotherapy company locally. It's taken a lot of time, effort, commitment and networking to establish links with people, and it's often felt that I'm going round in circles.

My passion to do this is what drives me. I totally believe in what I'm trying to do, and when things are definite I'll share a bit more information- I'm not being intentionally mysterious.

I'm still getting my gym sessions in, and usually go about 4-5 times a week. For me this really helps my tailbone pain. I think it's a mix of the good old endorphins, just the actual getting up and getting out, socialising with friendly, like-minded  people and actually keeping everything moving and supple.

I do find the cold weather tends to make the pain 'niggle' though, so I'm not looking forward to the Winter. Summer is definitely my season!

I would recommend being more active to anyone who is in pain. I know that a lot of factors effect our ability to get active (and not all just physical). But I would advocate getting advise from your healthcare provider and/or Personal Trainer to see what they suggest. They can support and motivate you throughout. There is usually some activity that you can do, regardless of any limitations. 

It's just taking that first step.

But then, every journey begins with that first step.

Saturday, 4 August 2018


It's that time of year when we try and get away.

It was our 20th Wedding Anniversary this year, and apparently in the UK the customary gift is china. So we decided to go to China, rather than actually giving or receiving china.

Yes, it was obviously more expensive, but I believe our lives are made up of memories, it is memories we will cherish and remember. 'Things' can come and go, get broken and forgotten, memories hopefully never will.

I also believe in living for the moment, we never know what is just around the corner, where life will take us, good or bad. I think this attitude comes from over 30 years of nursing where although I witnessed many truly amazing things, I also witnessed much grief and heartbreak. So, while I am physically, emotionally and financially able to do new, exciting and challenging things, I will, because I truly appreciate how fortunate I am to be able to.

China was extremely interesting and very challenging. It was an exhausting trip, with lots of travel. We saw many amazing sights. I struggled with not having access to freely available running water, apparently our guide told us- even the Chinese do not drink their tap water, it needs boiling, or to buy bottled. It reinforced how lucky most of us are in the West, to be able to just turn on the tap to drink, or to wash our toothbrush etc.

I also found having no access to Western Social Media such as Facebook, Instagram and Twitter quite strange. Yes, I can go without, but I don't want to. While many people will moan about these 'platforms', I think we are privileged to have this freedom and to have a choice whether or not we use it. Like many things in life, it is up to us how we use these things.

Food was also different to what I expected, certainly not our Western version of 'Chinese' food.

All this being said though, we had a truly amazing time and came home with many stories.

I know that I am lucky because my coccyx pain is now manageable. I coped by splitting smaller trips up into manageable amounts. I can sit for 3-5 hours now, although fidget like no-one else I know. So bullet trains, taxis and short-haul planes were just about ok. The plane journey to China was only manageable as we were really (incredibly!) lucky to get upgraded to business because it was our anniversary! This meant that I could lie flat for most of the 12 hour journey. I also got up a lot to walk about, and did lots of stretches in my seat. I had planned a few drinks, and/or stronger painkillers to cope (not that I'd recommend this!), Luckily I did not need to resort to this strategy.

I hope anyone reading this manages to get some time for rest and relaxation, and is not suffering in the heat that most of Europe is sweltering in.

I also hope that any chronic pain you are suffering with is manageable. You should not have to live and suffer with pain. Please speak to someone- friend, family, healthcare provider if you are, there may be something you can do that will help.

I still take regular painkillers, exercise at least 4 times a week,  stay off my coccyx at every opportunity, and really just try and live my life as best as I can with the condition.

Personally, I gave up on GP's and other healthcare providers a couple of years ago, they just didn't seem interested and I just felt like a number, an inconvenience getting shoved from one 'professional' to another, with no one actually helping. So, for me, I have come to terms with the fact it is my struggle, and I think that in itself helped. I accepted that no-one was able to 'cure' my pain, so I live with it and try and not let it take over my life.

Yes, I still have really bad days, where I just cannot get comfortable and cannot find a pain free position; but I normally just get up and go out for a walk, or to the gym.

I know not everyone can do this though, and I know many people have overwhelming, all consuming pain- but don't give up, there may be something you can do to help, you just need to discover your own path. This is your journey, travel it as best you can.

River Li, Guilin, China.

Tuesday, 5 June 2018


Sorry, but I need to moan about chairs again!

Why can't anywhere get chairs right?!

Sat in my doctors waiting room earlier and I just could not believe how uncomfortable the chairs were. It's a 'waiting room' for goodness sake....for patients.

They are too high for starters, but mostly it is that ridiculous angle of the chair back which makes one have to sit almost semi-recumbent, right on that poor old tailbone.

My last blog I said how I could cope with my coccydynia, daily I can more or less try and live with it, forget it almost. then a simple situation like sitting in my doctors surgery reminds me that 'hey, guess what I have a sore tailbone!'

It is not fair. People should be given comfortable seats, or a choice of seats. I don't care if the colour is matching, or they are lined in nice neat rows, or they are all the same height! People with back problems, joint problems, coccyx problems need a choice of seat! It's not rocket science.

Rant over.....for today, anyway.

Saturday, 2 June 2018

How being physically active has helped my coccyx pain

Coccyx pain still affects my daily life, however generally I am able to live and function in a manner that allows me to not let it take control of me. I know I am fortunate now as it is no way as bad as it once was, or many people have.

Once I would have said it ruined my life- I was in pain pretty much all of the time; unable to sit, searching wherever I went to find some suitable surface to sit on; because even if it hurts you want to sit, you still want to chill out and relax somehow. I remember one Christmas in particular when I could not sit on the sofa, any chair or even the floor. I had to be semi-recumbent on either side/hip to find any degree of comfort, which had a knock on effect on my back. Most of that Christmas was spent in pain and tears.

I could not sit in a hairdressers chair for any length of time, once I had to leave 'half done' as I was just so sore.

Travelling anywhere was a nightmare. I had to either just not go anywhere, or plan ahead. If it was a particularly long journey I saved up (sometimes for a couple of years), just to be able to afford extra legroom or Business Class so that I was not sat the whole journey.

I have never found coccyx cushions to be of much help. Sometimes pain killers helped, sometimes they didn't. Sometimes a concoction of painkillers helped, sometimes they didn't; and the side effects of being heavily dosed up are not nice, as many of you reading this will know. Sometimes alcohol helped, but it's not something I'd recommend. I have a heat pad- that's about the only thing that gave some relief.

Steroid injections didn't help.

Manipulation under anaesthetic didn't help.

....And the embarrassment of the whole situation; it's ok to say you have a bad back.....but trying to explain you have a bad coccyx, well that's an entirely different thing. I got to the point of being past caring, and I would say. I used to then be amazed at how many other people suffer with this condition in silence, or know someone who does.

I was determined not to have my coccyx removed, which had been recommended. No! I wanted to manage this myself.

Over the years I took time off work both because of the pain, and the stress the whole situation caused. It put a strain on friendships, family....pretty much everything.

But now, well, I 'manage'. I am doing a more active job as a Personal Trainer, so I'm off my coccyx more. I am keeping much more active, and gym and/or walk every single day (with maybe a rest day once a week).

At the gym I do alot of weights. I choose weights that don't hurt my coccyx. This means avoiding many of the Resistance Machines that seem to make you sit down at an odd angle and place pressure on your coccyx. When I do Free weights (which I mostly do), on a bench, I do these lying down. The lying down part, involves my own technique of clenching my buttocks and kind of rolling on one butt cheek to protect my coccyx and to not roll directly on it- (this I still cannot do). I have to avoid things like Pilates, 'roll ups', 'sit ups', anything where you are meant to roll as you sit up, even the thought of it makes my eyes water!

Perhaps doing leg and glutes work has also helped by strengthening muscles all around my coccyx as well as my pelvic floor. This is bound to help support the area in a positive way. In fact, since doing weight training my posture overall is alot better and I feel I stand and walk taller.

I also do alot of cardio work as this is obviously off your coccyx. I avoid bikes and rowing as these are no good for me and my coccyx.

I taper everything I do at home, out and about and at the gym around my coccyx pain. It's mostly a subconscious thing. It's really only at the gym now that I have to think about what I'm doing and protect myself from causing pain. I also still need to think ahead with travel, as I still can't sit for any length of time.

I do manage now though. Pain does not rule my life. Yes, it's something that I am aware of, but I would rather manage it with exercise and lifestyle, than medication and/or surgery.

I think perhaps having a more positive attitude has helped, losing a bit of weight, and those natural painkillers that are released when you exercise.

I appreciate that everyone is different, some cannot exercise for different reasons, some have unrelenting unbearable pain like mine once was- to you my heart goes out. I wish you well, and I wish that your pain improves and/or you find a way to manage it.

Don't ever give up trying. You should not have to live with pain. Please see a healthcare provider or someone you trust who may be able to help, and do not give up until they do! You deserve a good and pain free life.

Thursday, 3 May 2018


Trying to blog whilst studying is proving quite a challenge. All the sitting around is also not of much help to my coccyx. I have now passed my 'Adapting Exercise for Older Adults' and am on the way to achieving my 'Exercise referral Qualification' which will enable me to help all those with medical conditions- including lower back pain.

Interestingly one of the other people on this course suffers with coccydynia, although it presents differently to mine- his is worse on standing, whereas mine improves. He feels his came on after significant weight loss, mine was after spin cycling. It has not stopped him staying physically active though.

The effect activity has on coccydynia is due in part to the endorphins it releases. Endorphins are released when you exercise and help reduce ones perception of pain, acting as an analgesic. Endorphins also have a 'feel good effect' and help lift your mood, which can also help in our perception of pain. Additionally they can keep stress at bay, and help us sleep better as they act as a mild sedative. In fact, physical activity is often 'prescribed' for people with depression, stress and/or anxiety, as well as for back pain. Endorphins

So if you are suffering with any type of back pain, depression, or medical condition see your healthcare provider and get some advise on becoming more physically active. It has a whole heap of benefits!  Benefits of Physical Activity.

Saturday, 17 March 2018

Now, and then

Well I haven't blogged again for a little while. I have been trying to get things ready for my new business 'JillsWellness' JillsWellness on Facebook and JillsWellness Blog 

My flyers and business cards are ready to go out and I plan to have a good long walk at the end of March posting these through letterboxes. I am going to start with doctors surgeries and see if any will let me leave some with them. I have had some interest locally already, but there are a few things happening next week which means I cannot really start properly until April time.

I have purchased some equipment such as dumbbells and resistance bands. My aim is to focus on the housebound, the older adult, those with long-term health conditions' and those who want to get fitter, stronger, and maintain their independence, in fact anyone who just would rather exercise in the comfort of their own home. It's very early days obviously, so I will just need to wait and see how things go.

'Sit to stand'

I'm really passionate about helping older adults maintain their independence for as long as possible.

All this increased gym activity and exercise has dramatically improved my coccyx pain. I guess this is due to a combination of losing some weight, endorphins being released, mood improvement and just generally keeping off my backside and being a lot more active.

It has been so difficult in the past, as when my coccydynia was at it's worst all I wanted to do was curl up in bed with strong pain killers and a heat pad, to cry and hopefully sleep. 

How that has changed! Days are completely different- all I want to do now is get down to the gym and lift some weights, have a walk outside or do some cardiovascular training. All I want to do now is be active, and if anything prevents me doing this (like waiting in for a delivery) I go stir-crazy!

Activity has definitely helped me.

According to review by the Cochrane Library "According to the available evidence (only 25% of included studies reported on possible harm or injury from the intervention), physical activity did not cause harm. Muscle soreness that sometimes occurs with starting a new exercise subsided as the participants adapted to the new activities. This is important as it shows physical activity in general is acceptable and unlikely to cause harm in people with chronic pain, many of whom may have previously feared it would increase their pain further."

However, they do acknowledge the sample size was small.

I would recommend getting advice from your Health Care Provider and seeing what they will allow you to do. There is normally an activity for just need to find what's right for you. Get a Personal Trainer to help you with your journey.

“Good things don’t happen by coincidence. Every dream carries with it certain risks, especially the risk of failure. But I am not stopped by risks. Supposed a great person takes the risk and fails. Then the person must try again. You cannot fail forever. If you try ten times, you have a better chance of making it on the eleventh try than if you didn’t try at all.” Arnold Schwarzenegger (age 70).


This is me and my gym buddy (my husband and my best friend). Having someone to train with also really helps keep you stay motivated and focussed on why you are being physically active and what you are trying to achieve. 

Saturday, 3 February 2018

Finally time to blog again!

Well, my coursework for my Level 3 Personal training Diploma is now all in. The practical stuff is all passed. So, I am now a Registered Gym Instructor (Level 2), but waiting to get my results for the Level 3 coursework. I am a Registered Exercise Professional and very excited!

In addition to this I undertook a mandatory Update Day for Nurses, so I can keep this Registration going as well. As long as I can prove I do a certain amount of Nurse related procedures and assessments I can stay registered. The NMC have confirmed this for me.

 My aim is to empower people to lead fuller lives through personalised programmes that restore function & vitality. I want to improve individual overall fitness, wellness & health in a responsible safe & professional manner. Motivation is key. Particular interests for me will be fallers, the elderly, those with long-term health conditions, in fact- anyone just daunted by the whole ‘gym thing’! I would like to go on and do The Exercise Referral Course, and also specialise in backs later on.

Exercise has helped dramatically with my lower back and coccyx pain. My mandatory update day was a full 9-5 not including travel time. Every aspect was sitting, apart from Basic life Support. I simply could not sit all day. I had genuinely forgotten what coccyx pain was like. Imagine that! I HAD FORGOTTEN WHAT COCCYX PAIN WAS LIKE.....until that day. 

I am over being embarrassed about it now, I had to stand for most of it, and I explained why I was having to stand. I am still baffled that you get weird looks when you try and explain about coccyx pain, and how awful it is; even other healthcare professionals looked at me like I was talking in some foreign language about something they had never heard about....or shock, horror I was openly discussing my backside.

I simply don't get it.

Anyway, it was a long and painful day, improved by standing. The next day- straight to the gym. What a relief. I am so fortunate the pain did not linger. For me staying active is so important. It is not just because it helps with my pain, it keeps me cheerful, it gets me out the house (now that I have lost my job), it's helping me loose weight, it's introducing me to new people, it's keeping my joints supple, my body strong and flexible and my heart and lungs healthy- you get the picture!

I feel for those who are unable to exercise for whatever reason. I have had those times, but always been fortunate to be able to get back to it at some point.

Providing that I'm careful I can even sit on my bum, but NEVER directly on my coccyx, I don't think I'll ever to be able to do this. So sitting and getting on and off equipment is done in my own individual and unique way, a kind of weird, subtle little roll onto a buttock!